Do you ever notice that you hold people to higher standards for the way they treat your loved ones than for the way they treat you? Not sure if I am wording that right, but I am finding that my tolerance level for people treating people I love badly is much lower than for those treating me badly.
If someone looks at Ken, Teri or my Mom sideways, I get ticked off. I may not do anything but bitch about it, but it definitely ticks me off. When Ken's friends do not return his calls, or when someone takes Teri for granted (myself included), or if someone hurts my mom's feelings, I am just fit to be tied, to the point that I lose sleep over it. But myself, heck -- walk on me, trample on me and abuse my niceness.
I think this is the case for people in general -- and I think it goes for more things than just this. Teri is the most supportive, loyal and optimistic person I know when it comes to other people. If she thinks someone needs help, she is the first one in line to help -- in any way possible. But for herself, she will find the reason not to spend the money on herself, not to ask for help, or... You get my point. I have come to believe this is human nature -- OK to offer help, but not OK to accept help, OK to take care of others, but not OK to be taken care of.
Weird! I tell you, we are weird!
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I am the same way! I hate to see other people abused but hey, come and walk all over me when ever you want! I will often take on other people's problems as my own and neglect myself. My husband is always coming down on me about that.
Good point. I'm willing to look the other way if someone gives me a hard time.
But, do the same thing to my daugthers, and I'll be in their face in a minute.
I never thought about it, but it is weird, isn't it?
Um is the pot calling the kettle black here? cough cough
Ummm, Yes, Teri, It is, as a matter of fact why I said we all do it. I think I am just as "bad" about this as you are. But it is easier to see it clearly when it is someone else doing it. One more thing that is easier with others than with one's self.
Way to go Amy.
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