I have apparently had way too much time on my hands -- but laying on a Jamaican beach for a week will do that to ya, I guess.
Revisiting old trains of thought, I am back at one that just escapes me. Why is it we are so much more forgiving for ourselves than we are for those we love. Not forgiving OF ourselves, but FOR ourselves.
If someone does me wrong, hurts me or treats me in any way less than I want them too, I am pretty quick to forgive, understand, and overlook. But do the same thing to someone I love, and you are toast in my book.
While the person offended may be past it, move on or overlook, I am right there at the ready and all worked up into a lather.
Mind you, I eventually get past it, but man, oh man, am I a bundle of animosity until I do. I am working diligently at fixing this way of being, as I love a lot of people, and find that it is tiring to be so worked up all the time.
Anyone else able to relate to this?
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I'm just sitting here trying to figure out what this is all about... I have an idea, because I'm pretty sure we've talked about it. Whatever it is, I know you'll find the answer.
You do worry about all of us so much - but it's who you are. We could try to change you, but a) cha, like that is ever going to work and b) why would we want to?
We've had this conversation before. I think it is just in our nature to be protective of those we love. While it's frustrating for me sometimes, I know it's equally frustrating for you when I won't let people who wrong you off as easily as you do. I guess this is part of being in a marriage!
Oh I am so like this! Someone can do me wrong and I'll forgive them time after time and keep giving them another chance (I am a sucker for reconnecting with old friends and boyfriends who at one time I wanted nothing to do with.) I feel like I should give people the benefit of the doubt. But wrong my loved one and you are blacklisted! I will never ever forget...and will keep the revenge fires burging. I can not stand to see my loved ones in pain and if you are the cause, look out. Because I will never forget you did them wrong even if they move on. Brian does that same thing for me so we are equally frustrating to each other.
Welcome back!! I missed you!! I got your email and I assure you I will call...I am just a mad woman until after Wednesday (stupid elections.) But I have lots of news and can not wait to hear all of your fun stories from your honeymoon...at least the G-rated ones! :)
Well, I hope you enjoyed the beach. The Missus and I went to Negril in 1984 and had a great time.
I'm pretty laid back, but will find myself angry at a person for a short period of time. Like you, I do get over it.
Welcome back!
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